Missing someone?

Your love came in with open arms, 

But my heart never got its touch. 

Now that you're so away, 

Why do I miss you so much?

The colors of life

The road so empty,
the destination so away.
My mind was asking,
am i going to sway?

I feared to be alone,
but she grabbed my hand.
When she gazed into my eyes,
hourglass stopped the sand.

The journey began merrily,
with a companion so sweet.
Her effect was such,
miles seemed to be a few feet.

But life's not a fairytale,
with the tides high and low.
Mountains too were crawling up,
all were getting ready for the show.

Swoosh came in the winds,
trembling went the nature.
The blue umbrella started dripping,
and washed away my future.

Here I am, all alone and yet with her,
trying to clinch hard to my pain.
Because one day, I am sure,
the weather will change again!

Trying to come back !!!

It's been a long time since I have done something with real consistency; of course, apart from eating and sleeping :)
Lately, I have been having the problem of not being convicted, dedicated, consistent....whatever you call it....in some of the decisions I take. Gym is the top and a recent example. After realizing that the weighing machine is not the one who is at fault, there were some immediate decisions taken to join the gym. And it was nothing difficult, the gym is rite below my floor in my company. It was not more than a week that I was saw myself in those long full length mirrors of the Gym. It's not that I had no intentions of going, but some thing or the other used to come up at work. Also, since I have joined my new organization, I have lost it all. My life style has gone haywire. No exercise, no extra curricular activities (blogging being one of them). I somehow hate to live like this. I could have probably done this on the weekend, but the week is so lame and tiresome that it makes the weekend more dull. And more ever, I am not that kind of a guy who would like to do all these things on the weekend. Firstly because I think that DECIDING to do it on 2 days out f 5 itself reduces the chances of doing it...Murphy's law zindabad !!!..... And secondly, you want to socialize, go for an outing on weekends and disconnect from the world to get your mental peace.

Anyways, enough is enough now. It's time to stop cribbing and pull up the socks. I have decided to streamline my lifestyle and live a healthy and a peaceful life. Take small things at a time and not over stress. Many more decisions taken, just not disclosing them as yet :). I just hope that this time I really work it on and keep my pace going. I really am determined. I want to do it.

Wish me luck, guys !!!

Five people you meet in heaven

There was a book fare in my company one Friday. Being in a TGIF mood, I thought I'd have a look. In a corner was lying a timid cream covered book which read "Five people you meet in heaven". Attractive title, isn't it?
I had a look at it....What the hell does the author mean by this title? Five people you meet in heaven? Huh, gimme a break. As I was staring at that book blankly, I heard a voice of a lady behind my shoulders saying "It's a good one". Bringing a positive smile on my smile, I turned around, only to find out that she was talking with a friend of hers; but talking about the same book. Enough of pondering around, I thought and I went for it.
I began reading that book from the very next day, not realizing that I was getting involved in it by the day.

This is a fable, giving a very serious message to us. It is about a life of an old man. Hold on, not an ordinary life, but life after his death. His life in heaven.
The author says that after you die, and when you go to heaven, there are some people waiting for you over there. Skipped a beat, didn't you? So did I.
The book mentions that, heaven is the place where you meet five such people who have affected your life, directly or indirectly. Not necessary that you know them; you mite not have seen them till that day..or night...whatever!
It could be your parents, your siblings, your wife, your class teacher or perhaps even the TV mechanic whose shop you went in when you were 8 years old.
What matters is that they played some part to change your life when you were alive. The author mentions that these five people are waiting to meet you and in turn are completing their five people list. Sounds complicated, doesn't it? It's not. Every man who goes to heaven, has five people to meet. Not necessary that all these five people are dead and have reached heaven before that guy. Some meet 4 people and wait for the 5th one to come to heaven and then meet him.

The book unfolds great mysteries about the old man, which no one didn't even know; not even him. You will see how some very serious questions of his life get answered. And you will be really amazed to know how people, not related to us, can change our lives, and to what extent.

It tells you, and makes you believe that no questions in you life are unanswered!!!

Vairatgad: 4th Jan 2009

8:30 am: Our first halt. We needed some hot tea in the chilly morning to rev up the engine :)

10:30 am: We took some time to find the exact route, but were finally seeing the destination.

A closer look

11:15 am: According to the plan, at this time, we were supposed to reach the top. This is where theory differs from the reality :)

12:10 pm: Finally, we reached there. But at a cost. Saurabh, had lost all the power and was dehydrating. The smile on my face was because of the fact that I came to know that I am not the worst :)

Aditya and Saurabh.

12:45 pm: That's Aditya and Me. This is a Shiv temple on the fort. Aditya was reading out the history of this fort from the book that he had.

A view of the Shiv temple from inside. It was burning hot outside, but inside this temple, it was very cold. God, indeed, is miraculous:)

Another view.

That's me. It was Saurabh's idea to click a pic like this. He suddenly asked to look behind as he was inside, and he clicked it. Good pic, I must say :)

4:30 pm: Started to descend now. Certainly happy faces than climbing, especially Saurabh :)

JAVAN's Torna Trek:13th Dec 2008

7:45 am: Our first halt on the highway to fill Petrol. Me and Avinash

10:30 am: After a lot of fuss and people losing their way, we finally reached at the foothill. Here we go now !!!

The Torna. Also known as Prachandagad (Prachand = massive, gad = fort)

11 15 am: The heat was out, and so was our energy. One of the guys gave up, just some time before we clicked this pic and he chose to sit in a shed of a tree till we return back. It was a tough decision to leave him there.

12:15 pm: We still had a long way to go.

1:15: Almost reached. Had covered almost 80 % till here.

2:00 pm: This was the real fun part. Cooking Khichadi. A real team activity, especially when there are no girls with you. :)

I don't know whether I was hungry or not, but this was the most delicious khichadi I had ever had. :)

Finally, I was full. :)

3:30 pm: We went to a Shiv temple on the fort.

4:00 pm: Pic clicked on the Zunjhar machi.

4:30 pm: Geared up for going down. :)

4:45 pm: A bit difficult rock patch for novice people to go down. Have to be a bit careful.

6:00 pm: Finally reached the foothill. Began our journey back. It was an awesome experience.

7:30 pm: It was not destined to go happen smoothly. One of the bikes' rear brake failed. Fortunately, it was not a severe failure and after some working, it got normal.

In a nutshell, a place worth going. You will surely not regret it.

Mera Bharat Mahaan !!!

Recently, I happened to read a article written by Shobha De. It was on the recent achievement By Abhinav Bindra at the Olympics.
I really made sense and made me transfixed; forcing me to think.
I seriously felt that what the lady is saying really made sense.
One gold medal in India, and we are on the moon. Now, India has entered the 61st year of its independence and hence its time that we put some of the key perspectives in place.

What shocked me the most is that, how different people use such things in their life. Some use it as a living while some use them to blow their own trumpet.

This blog is about a girl on the street, trying to sell the daily newspaper, as a part of her daily arrangement for lunch. This 12 year old, drenching in the rain, trying to cover the newspaper, was dressed in rags. Shivering, she tapped the window of a car and lisped, " Madam, Madam..India ko Gold Medal Mil gaya".
She could not possibly have known what that medal meant... but she did know it would sell more papers that day. And that made her happy! Amazing, how a complete stranger's win touches lives on different levels.

Now let's come at a very high level, which actually is the cheapest of all.
For the little girl, the extra rupees coming from that news, may have translated into an extra vada pav at dinner, but for some people, Bindra's medal was an opportunity worth milking for their own glory. Apparently, some politician magnanimously offered Rs 10 Lakh to Abhinav Bindra. Don't get me wrong, as I am not against his success and the fame he is getting. it is just the matter of fact that does he really need it?

Bindra is a particularly privileged sportsman who was born with a silver rifle... er ... spoon, in his mouth. He got to his present position, thanks to the happy fact that his father had the financial clout to support his son's passion. Lucky Bindra. He had what it takes to create a champion — the grit, determination and dough! India merely happens to be the country of his birth and can claim no credit for his impressive win. Where does the politician and his state come in between? If the politician had Rs 10 lakh to spare and wished to acknowledge Bindra's victory, why didn't he put that money into a sports scholarship to benefit promising youngsters? Why offer monetary awards to someone who is a millionaire to begin with?

I sincerely thought of writing this blog after reading the inspiring article.
AS the article ends, still the girl is still shouting, "India ko Gold Medal mila".
I wonder, us ladki ko kya mila??

A fair Bargain??

I have been wanting to right this blog since a long time and now finally i am.

It was just a plain thought that came to my mind about a year back. I was leaving for Chandigarh in a couple of days, and hence was on a shopping spree.
As usual, there were many last minute things to be done. I had purchased three new trousers and wanted to alter them. The guy in the mall said that it would take minimum a day for this activity and to top it all, that mall was 10 km from my house. So, i took a decision that i will give it to a shop nearby my place.
That guy in the shop promised me that he would give me the trousers till end of day. I was surprised by his confidence, but preferred not to challenge it because it was in my favor.

I went to his shop in the evening to collect my trousers. As promised, he had finished his work. I was impressed. I asked him the total cost for this work and he told me 15/- per trouser so by simple maths, that made 45 Rs. for the three trousers.
I started to bargain with him asking him to give me all three for 40 Rs.

Then what he said knocked me off and forced me to think.
He said, "Sir, you buy these trousers for 1400 Rs. each in a mall and don't bargain with them and now you are bargaining for 45 Rs."

I seriously regretted my offer of bargaining with him. All my way back, I was thinking about that guy. He was striving hard, he promised me to give all the trousers till evening, just for 45 Rs. This shows his tenacity for living.

From that day, I have never bargained, especially with such people who really 'make a living' from what you give them.

How you go to heaven !!!

Hi All, today I have a various serious issue on discussion here. I am going to talk about the religion and rituals followed in India after the cremation ceremony. I know it’s a weird topic, but please bear with me. I had never thought that a crow has so much value in our life. I guess you also will have your respect increased for crow after reading this . :-)

"O departed one! Be united in the highest heaven with the pitrs and with Yama. Leaving here all your sins, go back to your home. Being endowed with bright luster be united with a new body" is the mantra when the body is consumed to flames.

Ashouchia or a period of un-cleanliness is followed for ten days. An oil lamp is burned continuously and cooked rice is offered on all days. It was believed that this ritual helped the departed to go to his/her new home smoothly.

Now, the soul has to be sent to the Heaven. The process of doing so is known as kriya. It is believed that this process starts on the 9^th day after the actual death (nine days symbolizing the nine months of gestation before human birth). The process starts by worshipping of the sun facing to the east. One should ask to free the spirit from all earthly bonding.

It is believed in Hinduism, that the departed soul travels through the pretaloka (the world of ghosts and spirits) to the pitraloka (the heaven or the world of ancestors). On the tenth day the performer makes a sankalpa (holy resolve) and offered pinda (rice-ball).

The Role of Crow:

It is interesting that the crow, much despised bird, becomes very important on the occasion of Pindadana. Crow is supposed to be messenger of Yama, the Lord of Death. Hence, there is a prayer. Master of the ceremony recites, "O Crow! Thou art the messenger of Yama. Please accept this offering (food-pinda) and satisfy the hunger of the departed Spirit that has proceeded to the Abode of Yama."

On the tenth day when the pinda is offered to manes, all wait eagerly for the temporarily holy crow to pounce and partake food. Delay on the part of the crow suggests that the deceased had some unfulfilled wish which was compelling. Often the priest advises the performer to declare there and then to fulfill the last wish of the departed soul. All heave a sigh of relief, when the crow descends or condescends to peck at the food!.

Pindadana relieves a preta (deceased) from the agony of hunger and thirst. Four pindas are prepared. One for the deceased and the three for his paternal ancestors. This rite known as sapindikarana completed the Antyeshti Ceremony.

Lastly, immersion of asthi or remnants of the bones of remains in sacred rivers ensured that a man returned finally to elements from which he took his mortal form. It is believed that when a person dies, the soul assumes three of the five elements (viz., fire, wind and ether), that rise from the dead body while the two more (earth and water) remain below. With the aid of pindas offered daily during the ten days after cremation, the soul assumes yet another form and after the twelfth day performance the soul finally sheds that delicate form as well, and assumes a third body according to the nature of its karma to go to heaven.

The pursuit of happyness !!!

That 'y' in 'Happyness' of the title is a mistake done purposely. :-)

I happened to see a movie today which I was urging to see from a long time. It’s called the pursuit of happiness.

I was awestruck by the movie. Amazing acting by Will Smith, hats off to him. And more surprising is the acting of the little boy Christopher (Jaden Smith). He has done a fabulous job. The story revolves around the relationship of a father and a son. It’s just a plain simple story happening in all of our lives daily. The thing is that, they make us realize what we are doing in life. I am sure, while watching this movie; you will have your memories refreshed. I had mine. This must have been happening or has happened in our daily lives.

The film begins in 1981 in San Francisco, California. Linda and Chris Gardner live in a small apartment with their son, Christopher. Chris has invested the family's life savings in a franchise selling portable bone density scanners. Linda works in a dead-end job in a local hotel laundry. The tension between them mounts as unpaid rent and bills continue to accumulate.

When his girlfriend walks out, Chris is left alone to raise Christopher on his own.

Chris accepts an unpaid internship at brokerage firm Dean Witter Reynolds that promises employment to only one trainee at its conclusion. His lack of salary and failure to sell more scanners leaves him riddled with debt; he and his son eventually become homeless. Chris and his son are evicted from their apartment and have no place to go. They spend several nights riding buses and sleeping in subway restrooms, saddled with their meager belongings. They sleep on the street and even behind the locked doors of a metro station bathroom. They begin lining up at the Glide Memorial Church on a daily basis in an effort to secure accommodations for the night. Sometimes they succeed, other times they literally are left out in the cold. As he struggles to provide a semblance of a family life for his son under the direst of circumstances, Chris becomes more determined to complete the intern program and become the sole trainee the firm will hire.

Chris’ determination finally pays off when he lands up getting that job after going trough a brutally competitive stockbroker-training program, where only one in twenty interns will make the cut.

With self-confidence and love and trust of his son, Chris Gardner rises above the obstacles to become a Wall Street legend.

I have two favorite scenes in this movie:

1^st: He is trying to sell a scanner and he begins a demonstration in front of a
Doctor and that machine screws up. It doesn’t work. He is devastated. He has
$ 22 in his bank account and a son on the other side. There is something in
That machine that needs to be replaced. He donates his blood to get that
Money, buys that part, and fixes it in the scanner.
Now is the time to test that. Just one push of a button. His expression before
pushing the button and after pushing the button was just amazing.
I mean, you could just imagine being in that place in that situation.

2^nd: This is when the results of the internship were going to be announced. They
Call him into the cabin to tell him that you are the guy that we want to hire.
When he comes to know that, one can see the expression on his face. He is
Wanting to cry, waiting to cry. Bur somehow he controls it and once he gets out of
that cabin, he rushes outside the building and explodes. Amazing stuff !!

All I will say, is that it is a must see movie for the people who really ‘live’ their life.