Expect less...Gain more!!!

Ever wondered why we get upset and angry over the minutest thing in our life? We are always having this feeling of unsatisfaction in our mind when we achieve something. Rarely we are contented with what we get in our life. In a nutshell, it can said that we are never happy entirely. So, the next question comes is that how can we be happy?

Thinking over it, I came to a solution for myself. What I thought is that we are always expecting things to behave like we want them to, not considering the fact that 90 percent of the things happening around us are not in our hands. Leave out the materialistic things, ever wondered why we fight? Be it with our parents or with your friends or even a stranger from the street. The only thing, which I found, is the crux reason for all this, is, EXPECTATIONS. We are always expecting someone to behave or respond in a particular way, looking from our spectacles. And if the response is not achieved, then we get upset.

Let’s see this with a small and a day to day life experience. A couple of days ago, I was working at my house. There was a lot of work as we had just shifted to a new house. It was Sunday morning, and I had given full time to my family and promised them to stay with them. Life was going easy, when suddenly my friend called up at 11:00 am. They all were planning to go to a movie or something. He asked me whether I was coming. Obviously, my answer was no as I already given my word. They all tried to convince me a lot, but I wont budge, because I thought I was doing the right thing. Then they got angry. They went to the movie that afternoon. That evening we met again, where I told them the reason why I did not come. Being matured and sensible, they understood immediately.

All I told them is that: you all were free at 12 for going for the movie. How do you all expect me to be free too. If by chance, if I am, then I would have loved to come with you. I also have some plans excluding friends. I told them that if they had intimated me a little earlier, then I would have made some arrangements and come with you. They understood immediately.

The moral of the story is that u keep doing your job. Never is a harsh and a difficult word, but try to never expect anything from anyone. This includes your wife, mom, dad, son and all the relations on earth. It’s a common trend and the greedy nature of humans, that when we do something for other, we tend to expect something back from them, even if we get it at any point of time in our life. Be it from our old parents or the young son. This is happening in the world today. Old age parents are being thrown out of the house by their children, the reason being that they are not useful to them anymore.

For achieving this happiness,one needs to achieve 2 things:

Financial independence
Emotional independence

In today’s world, accept it or not, money rules us. It decides where we stand in this society. It governs 99 percent of life. Getting financial independence, in layman’s word, I would say that, is keeping money for yourself and ONLY for yourself. So that you are not left high and dry when you are all alone in your life.

By emotional independence, I mean that never be emotionally attached with anyone. Anyone would sound harsh. Of course, wife, parents have a bit waiver to this. What I mean by “not get emotionally attached” is that don’t love some unconditionally. Because what happens when you do so, is that you start expecting things from him ( the person). If you can manage both things, it is the best. Then you are the most happiest person on the earth.

I know that it is easier said than done, but all the practical success in the world has come from the theories. This is just one of the theory for a person to be happy in today’s world. I am sure that there are many more ways and theories explaining how can a man be happy. I would love to hear them, because this theory is my last option.