EVERYONE in this world has some or the other problem in his life. There is no one who has escaped from this. The question is – do you want to die thinking of how my problems were or do you want to die thinking how I enjoyed my life in spite of my problems?
Some people die trying to overcome those problems, but as soon as one is finished, the other one pops up and their life goes on in the same way. On the other hand, some people live with it and accept the fact that NOBODY is perfect and they see the positive things and keep themselves happy. Who are you? What do you want to be? The choice is completely yours.
People come into our lives with their own package. What usually happens is that we love the person, but hate the package. But in a culture where we have been bought up, we have to accept the package. It’s a part and parcel of our lives. And what frustrates us more is – the person who we THINK we know very well, has a darker side that we have never seen. There is no human being in your life who will behave EXACTLY as you want and would do all the things that you have always expected. But still, there is one person with whom we get along very well. Being with him/her, feels nice, gives you solace. You sleep happily thinking that I am with the person who I love the most in the world. And believe me, it’s a best feeling.
If you're with your loved ones today, it's priceless. Maybe it's hurting you now, but in the long run, something else is going o hurt you. Maybe you are not realizing what you have right now, because you have not lost it. Life teaches us lessons in the exact same way – it gives what we want, and the moment we don’t start valuing what we have, it snatches it from us. That is when we get to know the real value of what we have in our lives. And trust me, you will be much more hurt when it goes away from you. Nobody is the world is flawless, so accept them with their bad habits. You too have some bad habits, or are you 100% perfect? But others are accepting you with them, right? So, why can’t you? There is not a single problem in this world which, if two people sit in front of each other, can solve. It’s just about how you want to approach it. Fear lets you run away from it. But the problem is – the farther you go, more hurting it is. Right now, you feel that running away is an option. But when you go ahead on your run, you will regret your decision.
One common complaint that most of us have is – He/She has changed. Let me tell you one thing – people don’t change overnight. It’s simply impossible to be a contrast person in just a few days. It is possible that there might be some gap between two people and that gap has increased over the years. Yes, that is quite possible. But has the gap gone so much that you are not able to see each other at all? And if yes, then are you happy when you’re not seeing him/her? I am sure you are not. If being in this gap is not making you happy, then is it a good thing? I have learnt one thing from my mentor and I diligently try to follow it; he says – “The goal of the life is to be happy and the ultimate destination is death. If you reach the destination without achieving your goal, what life have you lived?”. The motto here is simple – If you’re not happy, then something is wrong. And if it is wrong, you have to fix it. If you fix it and still you’re unhappy, fix it again. Continue this till the point you get happy.
Whatever the issue is, just show some faith in 2 things – your love and God. They never let you down. Show some patience and things will change. Maybe you have shown a lot, but going an extra mile for the person you love is not a big deal. I can bet my anything on the fact that the people who love each other the most can never stay away from each other. You will fight, you will cry and you will get angry, but at the end of the day, you will check if he/she is there with you. My 2 cents of advice to all of you is - hang in there and change things positively. For that, have a very positive outlook; try to make everyone smile and trust me, the gap starts narrowing. Let me tell you one more thing - people are not bad at heart. However stern they appear from outside, all it needs to melt them, is a bit of love.
One last saying that I love the most. “Lose the fight, not the person”.
